Personality Development

Personality Development By means of Improving Communication Skills:

Talking is very easy, but “Communication” means an exchange or communion with the other person, requires the greater skill. An exchange which is the communion demands on the way “we listen and do speak skillfully”, and just not talk mindlessly. Interacting with the fearful, angry, or the frustrated people will be even more difficult, because we are less skillful when we are caught up in such kind of emotions. Do not despair or resign yourself to the lifetime of miscommunication at the work or at home! Good communicators can honed as well as born. Here are few of the tips for effective comminication:

Communication is the skill and like any other skills it also requires the practice. It is improved through practice which differentiates the skill from other forms of the knowledge. Understanding a theory of the communication and the effective presentation will not make you brilliant communicator or the presenter but should make you aware of how to maximize a impact of the presentations. Most important thing to remember is a message which you intend to communicate is most likely to be misunderstood by the listeners. Therefore, in addition to the carefully preparing and presenting the message, stay alert for any of the signs which your audience are mis-interpreting it. It is up to you, a presenter, to continually check if your message have been received, understood, interpreted correctly and is filed in the receivers mind.

Tips for Effective Communication:·

Be honest while communicating. Dishonesty will somewhere show up along a line. ·

Take interest in the people you are communicating with. Remember the people are more attracted towards those who have interest in them, and pays more attention to what they say.

·Think before you speak .· Be direct and not aggressive. ·Don't use the jargon – technical expressions, unless you are sure about that your listeners do understand.

·Write the way as you will speak. Do not fall into a trap of using the long words just because it is written down.·

Take time. Whether in the speech or in paper, rushing will make you seem nervous, unconfident and like downright scared.

Be confident about what you speak,nervousness can ruin the communication.

Ability to ask the questions and listen are vital to the good interpersonal skills. In fact the empathetic listening is a number one skill which can help to build the relationships.

Tips for Good Interpersonal Skills:·

Listen to the person first. Communication is the two-way process; getting all your message across depends on understanding a other person.·

Be interested in people you will be communicating with. Remember that the people are more attracted towards those who have interest in them, and therefore will pay more attention to what they will say.

· Relax. The bad body language like hunched shoulders,shaking the legs etc. passes out a negative impression and may ruin the communication.·

Smile and use the eye contact. It is a most positive signal which you can give.·Ask the questions. It is great way to show the people that you really are interested in them.·

If the other person has different point of view towards you find out why they have such point of view. More you understand reasons behind their thinking more you will be able to understand their point of view or can help them understand your point of view.

· Be assertive,so that we can try to value their input as your own inputs. Do not be pushy and do not be a pushover. Try for a right balance.·

When you will be speaking try to be enthusiastic in appropriate context. Use voice and the body language to show this.·

Learn from the interactions. If you have a good conversation with someone try to think why it all went well and remember key points for the next time. If it did not go well - again try and learn something out of it.

Most obvious form of the paralanguage is the body language or the kinesics . This is a language of the gestures, expressions, and the postures.

The eye contact-The eye contact helps to create the better interaction and the rapport with the listeners. Always try to look at listener at the end of the sentence to reinforce a message in that sentence.

The Gesture-The gestures can help to give your voice the extra energy and the confidence Try to gesture on some of the key words – this will give the words a greater emphasis.

The Presence-Aim to keep the body language open and be relaxed all the times. Physical attitude can affect the psychological attitude.

The Movement and the Space-Be sensitive towards the people’s space and try not to intrude into it. To achieve the report when speaking to others try to match up the levels –like either both are sitting or standing with a body angled in towards other person.